Yesterday’s email asked the question, are things changing, and I certainly hope so. Who wants to continue with the same mistakes that got them here in the first place.

And in order to help you change, things are also changing at the Affair Recovery Center.

Harboring Hope will now be available for enrollment 24/7, three hundred sixty five days a year.

But wait: THERE’S A CATCH

To celebrate our expanded enrollment process we’re giving a special bonus to those who sign up by Friday, 12 midnight CST.

If you enroll before Friday, January 29th, you’ll receive a one-year basic ARC site membership. That’s a $180 bonus that you can take advantage of.

All you have to do is make sure you enroll in Harboring Hope by 12:00 midnight on Friday.

Enroll now at
http://www.AffairRecovery.com/harboring-hope

To healing,

Rick

P.S. Don’t miss out. This is a great way to access more resources.

On to the results! We used the sequence generator at random.org and these….(drum rollllllll) are our winnners:

#37 – NAncy
#44 – Jennifer
# 8 – Sandi
#32 – Chad
# 4 – Charlene

You can read all the entries here: http://www.HarboringHope.com/freecourse.

Congratulations to the winners! I’ll be contacting you soon to give you all the details.

Erin Barry
Web Administrator

WHAT IS HARBORING HOPE?

Normally in handling a betrayal you’d do one of the following:

• Buy a book
• Tell a friend (and hope they were good at listening and could somehow understand and be supportive)
• Talk to a pastor
• Go to therapy (and hope they knew how to address your problem)
• Isolate
• Live in shame
• Bury your head in the sand and pretend it didn’t happen
• Leave the bum (or bumette)

HARBORING HOPE changes that. It’s more than a book and more than individual counseling.

IT’S A TOTALLY NEW APPROACH:
Unlike a book:
While there are written materials in the HARBORING HOPE course, there are also videos which allow you to witness a weekend seminar led by Leslie and John, where others just like you wrestled with their pain. It allows you to be a part of a larger journey of healing.

Unlike telling a friend:
While there’s certainly nothing bad about telling a friend, unless they’ve been where you’re at they may have trouble relating and being relevant. HARBORING HOPE places you in a care group consisting of others who are on a similar journey dealing with betrayal. Here you will find support and a deep understanding.

Unlike talking to a pastor:
Only in the sense of experience. We strongly recommend talking to your pastor, and as you will see, we believe God plays the central role in recovery. But, we’ve also seen many well meaning clergy try to give advice regarding the response to the infidelity, rather than helping make sense of the spiritual aspects of what has happened. For many, that has proved less than helpful. I believe you’ll find the spiritual insights provided through the HARBORING HOPE course to be relevant to your personal healing.

Unlike talking to a therapist:
Frequently, the impact of a betrayal requires the services of a therapist, so please don’t try to use this course in place of therapy. We’re in no way suggesting you drop out of therapy. In fact, HARBORING HOPE is designed to work in conjunction with your therapy. But you’ll find that Harboring Hope provides additional benefits: you’ll
receive support from others who share your plight. It provides a focused and practical approach for dealing with the specific circumstance common to
betrayal. Additionally, the course provides daily support through your group forum.

Unlike isolating:
Sadly, many feel totally cut off after a betrayal. Feeling misunderstood often leads the wounded to isolation. HARBORING HOPE provides a safe venue for support where you no longer have
to isolate. Actually, you can participate in this program from the privacy of your own living room.

Unlike living in shame:
My heart breaks for those who are trapped in shame as a result of their mate’s betrayal. The HARBORING HOPE curriculum provides a process for dealing with your shame. Others in your care group will extend love and grace and the coaching provided by Leslie and John will help you find a path out of your shame.

Unlike living in denial:
Who wants to be stuck? Denial is the glue that keeps you forever repeating the same pattern.
HARBORING HOPE provides multiple ways to face reality and make new beginnings. Don’t make the mistake of not learning and changing. Learn to face your reality and make positive life changes. The opportunity provided by your HARBORING HOPE course will give you fresh motivation to improve your life and find new direction

Unlike leaving the bum/bumette:
You may or may not choose to save your marriage, but HARBORING HOPE tries to honestly address the advantages of staying and of leaving. We believe at times our culture is a bit crazy. We are far more tolerant of divorce, where lives are forever altered and children severely affected, than we are of exploring the possibilities of recovering from infidelity. We believe it’s at least worth exploring the benefits of saving a marriage and the potential gains, as well as the risks. HARBORING HOPE tries to be realistic. It’s not a
cookie cutter approach. It’s designed to help you heal and make sound personal decisions.

HARBORING HOPE’S educational component,
support group component, and coaching component provides:
1) A COMMUNITY OF SUPPORT:
Stephanie and I felt isolated and alone in our journey. A group serves as a safe community of support since other members are in a similar situation. You don’t have to be alone. In the initial stages, it’s not uncommon for your mate to be clueless in regards to your plight and pain. A group provides an entire community of those who “get it” and who are focused on moving on with life.
2) A PRIVATE, ANONYMOUS AND CONVENIENT APPROACH:
Who has to know? One of the beauties of the onlineHARBORING HOPE course is privacy and convenience. You’ll have the ability to talk with others without the
fear of your private information being spread around your community. Group sessions are held by telephone conference call. You will know the other participants
by first name only. Unless you choose, there is no exchange of personal information. Even your email address will be protected from other members. If privacy needs have kept you from being able to share, then HARBORING HOPE solves that problem.
3) A POINT OF REFERENCE:
How are you doing? When you’re rocked by something as devastating as infidelity, it leaves you totally disoriented. If you’ve never gone through a betrayal, then it’s impossible to know whether you’re making progress. Having others in the group going through similar situations allows you to gauge your progress.
4) A SOUND COURSE OF ACTION:
What to do? If you haven’t noticed, most people haven’t a clue when it comes to responding to infidelity. Even mental health professionals can be sorely lacking when it comes to knowing how to help. The material presented over the 12 weeks of the HARBORING HOPE course is relevant and practical. Leslie and John will walk with you on your journey.
The coaching aspect of the program will help make it specific to your situation.
5) A SAFE PLACE TO PROCESS:
Who do you talk to? Groups provide a rich community to find someone to share with. If you’ve ever been a part of a group, then you understand the power that comes from having others supporting you and pulling for your recovery. The HARBORING HOPE process is setup where sharing is safe. You may find it to be your best source of support in this process.
6) A NEW PERSPECTIVE:
How do you know that you’re seeing all possibilities? A great benefit to groups is their creativity. We tend to be limited by our personal life experiences, but the group approach allows access to other possibilities you’ve never considered.
7) A CONTROLLED ENVIRONMENT:
How do you know what’s good or bad advice? As I mentioned earlier, there are many well meaning people who are more than willing to share what they would do if they were in your shoes, but no one really knows how they would respond until they’re in your situation. Harboring Hope’s educational component, along with the structured group, provides the necessary elements to keep the process positive.
AN EFFICIENT APPROACH:
How long should it take? Your recovery will be unique to you and your situation, but after treating thousands of individuals recovering from infidelity we can show without a doubt that following a proven process let’s you make that journey in the most efficient path possible. We find those utilizing the group format move through the process as quickly as possible and seem to find hope even in their darkness.
9) A NEW APPROACH:
How does it work? HARBORING HOPE contains three components.

• First is educational. There is an extensive workbook designed to help you on your journey. If you’re normal, you don’t even know the relevant questions to ask. The workbook along with the videos will bring new clarity to your journey.
• Second is the “Care Group”. The course will provide others who will share in your journey. You don’t have to be alone.
• Third is the coaching. Leslie and John will conduct regular Q and A call to assure that your specific needs and questions are being addressed.

10) The HARBORING HOPE COURSE:

1. Course materials, including a workbook and DVDs, will be delivered to your address in discreet packaging.
2. Your Care Group: Each member of the HARBORING HOPE course is assigned to a care group which has a weekly telephone conference to process homework and to receive encouragement. Each care group will also have its own private forum where members can communicate during the week.
3. A Q and A call conducted regularly by Leslie and John. The call will be a live webinar where they answer questions submitted by the members of the HARBORING HOPE
   course. While they may not be able to answer all the questions submitted for that week’s lesson, they will certainly try to break the questions into the relevant categories so they can answer the most pressing questions.
4. The HARBORING HOPE website. Additional materials will be posted on the this site to facilitate your healing.

I’ve loaded the bio information for Leslie, John and me. If you want to know more about the why then take a look at what this is all about.
Go to http://www.HarboringHope.com/leslie
http://www.HarboringHope.com/john (for the men who have been betrayed)
http://www.HarboringHope.com/rick (for why we began the ARC and why this program works)

Feel free to post any questions you might have on the blog.
Here’s a few more questions answered:

- QUESTION: What is Harboring Hope?
SHORT ANSWER: It’s a totally unique, three month course
that provides HELP FOR THE BETRAYED SPOUSE
and hope for the hurting. To understand more
checkout John and Leslie.
- CONCERN: Can an online course really work?
SHORT ANSWER: Absolutely. Review the
research at http://www.harboringhope.com/research

Of course the “SHORT ANSWERS” above are just that – short answers. I’ll be filling you in on all of these questions/concerns.

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