Free Webinar about the “Tiger Woods Effect”
Our in-box is flooded with problems created by what I call the “Tiger Woods Effect”. We’d like to provide solutions for the problems this has created for recovering couples. To join the webinar and our Harboring Hope launch list as well as receive other helps for the recovery process submit your name and email below.
Tiger’s affairs are in a different realm than the problems my husband and I face. My husband actually fell in love with someone else and began a virtual marriage with her. Then he almost left me and the kids, without a thought for us. That is different that using women left and right for sexual gratification. The two of us are still together, but I am afraid I will always be his consolation prize, with him returning to me only to please his family of origin. The pain is like being shot through the gut with a cannon ball. We moved to a new town, but he brought his same brain with him.
Comment by Gingercake — December 24, 2009 @ 9:19 am
Responding to Gingercake’s comment, I cannot identify with the experience and struggle from personal experience. I am a helper, and I think some of those whom I try to help could easily identify with “consolation prize,” lack of trust in the most desirable motives for returning, and “pain is like being shot through the gut.” “Brought the same brain,” is very descriptive of your observing an absence of change. I know you would like to see the results of a thorough brainwashing.
Have you looked into opportunities available through Rick Reynolds at ARC and the team there? Without formal specialized training in
the area of recovery from affairs, I find the information at the ARC website quite helpful.
Marriage is by design the tightest, most intimate, and most sacred of all relationships on the human plane. When that is violated, and the unfaithful partner does not show both brain-level and heart-level change, it seems the excruciating pain is heartlessly extended.
I hope you will find the support you need for yourself whether your husband chooses to join you in seeking healing together or not. For further insight, you might read the report posted by Rick entitled, “The Shocking Truth About Trust” at http://www.HarboringHope.com/theshockingtruth. Please check into additional opportunities through ARC also.
Dan
Comment by Dan King Sr — December 24, 2009 @ 9:46 pm